What kind of winner are you?

Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable by Tim S. Grover is the first book I’d recommend when it comes to trying to get more out of your life. Grover is unforgiving in his advice, and while it may come off as a tad harsh, I think it’s a refreshing change of pace from the “don’t be too hard on yourself” culture.

To Grover there are three types of successful people in the world. Grover is a trainer for professional athletes, but he notes how this distinction holds true in all walks of life.

  1. A cooler

A cooler is on the bottom of the totem pole but don’t mistake this to mean a cooler isn’t a success. A cooler is good. If you give a cooler a task, they will execute it exactly as you expected. In school, a cooler gets straight A’s by following the rubric exactly as it is printed and submitting all assignments exactly on deadline. A cooler waiter will never mess up an order. A cooler personal trainer will help you lose exactly how much weight you want to lose.

Coolers are good. Closers are great.

2. A closer

A closer is who you bring in to handle what coolers can’t. A cooler is great when everything goes as expected, but they can’t handle unexpected obstacles. A cooler salesmen can execute a perfect sales pitch that works 90% of the time. But what happens when the customer asks a question the cooler hasn’t prepared for? A cooler doesn’t adjust well;. A cooler isn’t who you look at when the game is on the line.

When you give a closer a task, they over deliver. A closer will do anything to demonstrate how they are better than everyone else. If you ask two salesmen, a cooler and a closer, to sell 50 cars each, the cooler will sell 50 cars. A closer will sell 55 cars plus 15 of the customers will buy the extended warranty. A cooler wide receiver will run the route exactly as he practiced, if a defender has him covered, he won’t be open. A closer will begin to run his route but when he sees that it’s covered, he will find a different way to get open.

Closers are great. Cleaners are unstoppable.

3. A cleaner

A cleaner wins. If someone is standing in front of a cooler, they stop. A closer will find a way to get around them. A cleaner, will run right through them. A cleaner waiter memorizes all of the regulars wine order and how they like their steak. A cleaner physical therapist will have you recovered months ahead of schedule.

Coolers do the expected. Closers do the unexpected. Cleaners do the unbelievable.

A cooler will never take the game-winning shot. A closer will take the game-winning shot if he believes he has a good chance to make it. A cleaner shoots. Coolers have great games. Closers have great seasons. Cleaners have great careers.

Michael Jordan is a cleaner. So is Kobe Bryant, Tom Brady, Tiger Woods, Derek Jeter, Muhammad Ali, Cristiano Ronaldo, Serena Williams and Wayne Gretsky. So is Warren Buffett, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Gordon Ramsey, Dwayne Johnson, Kevin Hart, Taylor Swift, Angelina Jolie, and Oprah Winfrey.

What type of winner are you?

Take charge of your life

The first step to achieving your potential is to take charge of your life. The people that consistently fall short of their goals are usually the people who are quickest to tell you it wasn’t their fault. To truly achieve what you want to achieve, the first step is to admit to yourself that you are in charge of your own life.

You know when you learn something new and all of the sudden you notice it everywhere? Like when you learn the meaning for a new word and all of the sudden you constantly hear it in songs and read it in books. This is the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon, and what’s really happening isn’t that you’re seeing the word more, it’s just that before you never noticed.

The Baader-Meinhof phenomenon is an example of how our brains tend to make special notice to certain things that it normally wouldn’t give a second thought. Our brains are wired to notice what we consciously or subconsciously want it to notice.

“If you’re looking for an EXCUSE, you’ll always find one. if you’re looking for an OPPORTUNITY, you’ll always find one.”

Mark Batterson

You are always going to be able to find an excuse for everything in life. No matter how much a person is at fault, they can find a reason why they aren’t. It is much more productive to find what you could’ve done differently even in situations that are not primarily your fault.

By making excuses, you are admitting that you are not in control of what happens in your life. You are saying that your failures aren’t your fault and you don’t have a reason to do better.

Those who achieve success have taken charge of their life. When they fail, it is due to their shortcomings and they will learn and grow from it. Best of all when they do achieve what they want, they know they did it for themselves because those who take responsibility for their failures are the only ones who can take credit for their successes.