The first step to achieving your potential is to take charge of your life. The people that consistently fall short of their goals are usually the people who are quickest to tell you it wasn’t their fault. To truly achieve what you want to achieve, the first step is to admit to yourself that you are in charge of your own life.
You know when you learn something new and all of the sudden you notice it everywhere? Like when you learn the meaning for a new word and all of the sudden you constantly hear it in songs and read it in books. This is the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon, and what’s really happening isn’t that you’re seeing the word more, it’s just that before you never noticed.
The Baader-Meinhof phenomenon is an example of how our brains tend to make special notice to certain things that it normally wouldn’t give a second thought. Our brains are wired to notice what we consciously or subconsciously want it to notice.
You are always going to be able to find an excuse for everything in life. No matter how much a person is at fault, they can find a reason why they aren’t. It is much more productive to find what you could’ve done differently even in situations that are not primarily your fault.
By making excuses, you are admitting that you are not in control of what happens in your life. You are saying that your failures aren’t your fault and you don’t have a reason to do better.
Those who achieve success have taken charge of their life. When they fail, it is due to their shortcomings and they will learn and grow from it. Best of all when they do achieve what they want, they know they did it for themselves because those who take responsibility for their failures are the only ones who can take credit for their successes.